Saturday, February 20, 2016

On Role Models, and Why Encouragers Are Needed for RevivalEncouragers)

Almost everyone with a younger sibling has been told to be a good example, yet we're also told not to compare ourselves to others. How do we find the right balance? How does it tie in to praying for repentance revival and God's healing touch on America? While as I wrote this wound up centered a bit more on celebrities (maybe 60%), it's for anyone. In fact at the start of the "Being Someone Who Encourages" section I list a few things private individuals especially can do to encourage others besides just prayer.

And, anyone can do something - more is mentioned in this radio show on the harvest being plentiful.

Inspiring Others

A simple definition of "role model" might be, "Someone you pattern yourself after in a certain area of life." Kids copy older siblings and parents, but people also enjoy turning to athletes, entertainers, and political leaders.  It probably seems odd at first, for a public figure to hear they don't just have fans, random people see them as role models. But, public figures inspire others and people admire them, even though Charles Barkley famously said athletes shouldn't be role models. But if not, what should be done if the people who should be role models - parents, teachers, etc. - fail? After all, role models need to live the right way, not just talk about it, and it doesn't help just saying, "don't follow us" without saying who to follow.

I'll say much more than just "Follow Jesus" - that would be way too short a post and it's been said so well in other places, like this.

Instead, I'll touch on things like what I said in another post about how other people matter. It will lead into how we should all use our abilities to encourage and inspire others in a positive way, in order to have repentance revival and God's healing touch on our country. We must get rid of the constant attacking we do nowadays - because people need lots of encouragement. We should also pray others will encourage people, too - but, we shouldn't jsut figure someone else will; we should do what we can, letting God guide us.

In some ways, it's easy to understand why certain people say they shouldn't be role models. Some have enough issues they're in need of role models even as adults. But, just like a kid who gets a lot in trouble but is still great at getting his little brother to pick up his toys (even if by seeing who can do it fastest), even someone with the roughest background can still be an encouragement.

That's what we should all strive to be. God's Word tells us to edify one another, to build each other up. We won't always feel like smiling, but God can help us through those times. However, think of those who have encouraged you in your life. They were very special to you. That is what each of us should be to others, whether a parent or teacher or just a public figure.

Inspirations of Old, and the Recipe for Revival

Well before modern media, parents and teachers already held famous people up as models of virtue. Two of the most famous are George Washington and Abraham Lincoln when it comes to honesty; they taught children to follow the examples of these men and be totally honest - and, some still do. Of course, we should follow the absolute right and wrong of God and not put people on such a level that we expect perfection, no matter who it is. After all, everyone is human and we should not put a person up to God's perfect level. However, they were still great examples because of the tone they set with their honesty

When Lincoln walked miles to return a few cents he'd overcharged a customer, for instance, it didn't matter if he wasn't perfect. It was still part of his general character - he was still an inspiration as Honest Abe. One reason honesty has declined so much is because we have thrown out the notion of inspiring youth with their examples. Of course, Washington and Lincoln were human. The point was that they tried hard to always tell the truth. That reminder was imprinted on children's hearts to help them do the same. A simpified example of how this would work in real life was in a 1967 Peanuts sequence. Sally had lied in Kindergarten and only felt guilty when Charlie Brown - in response to being asked why honesty was important - shouted "George Washington." She burst into tears pledging she would never lie again. He probably didn't shout so much as the reminder was so loud in her heart. After all, she is a very well behaved girl normally and was likely just once. We don't see her lie again. In fact, in a 1978 sequence she is tempted but instead she confesses to breaking another kid's ruler and buys a new one for him. She'd learned it felt good to do the right thing.

Even if a person has a wonderful family, it is normal to look up to famous people. It can be a Washington or Lincoln, or a current star. Using the funnies again to mirror real life (and likely a real happening; the author used his family but also ideas fans sent in), a 1970s Family Circus comic  showed Billy at the bathroom sink asking his mom, "How do you know Reggie Jackson brushes his teeth every night?" A child's mom had tried to get him to brush by telling him that the baseball superstar did the same. This no doubt happened in many households with different players, entertainers, etc. that kids liked. (Plus, given his wooden teeth and hygiene in his day, it wasn't possible to tell them George Washington always brushed his teeth.)

Wanting to be like someone you look up to can be good when done in the right way like that. And, it should be fun for others, too. It's a joy to encourage people.Whether kids should need reminded that someone else always tries to be 100% honest, or brushes their teeth, or whatever, doesn't matter.

Sure, it's better to look up to someone close to you. But, whether you're a relative, neighbor, or just a public figure who was kind enough to sign that kid's poster that's up in their room, to know that they're doing the right thing because of you is a wonderful feeling. It lets you realize you helped someone - or, rather, you answered God's call and He used you on His team.

There are, of course, many complaints that some celebrities do things so against what should be done in a civilized society. Johnny Manziel's multiple problems, the recent situation revealed about Peyton Manning when he was in college - with an even worse cover-up, it seems - or any number of scandals involving Hollywood stars are the kinds of things that draw such negative reactions to them as role models.

However, such complaints ignore three important things. First, they ignore the fact that some kids grow up in situations where there is no good role model for many aspects of life - we need to encourage these young people to turn somewhere, not just tell them where not to turn. (And, thankfully, many athletes do give back tot heir communities in many ways, such as LeBron James.)  Second, such complaints ignore the fact a role model can be held in high regard for one thing and not for another - Lincoln would be praised for his honesty, a truly great thing, but certainly not for his radio broadcasting skill, since he died way before radio was invented. Finally, they ignore the fact that this nation as a whole has these problems. The stains of sin and addiction can be seen in every walk of life; public figures are just more, well, public.

That last is why we need repentance revival in the first place. We need to pray God heals this country. That repentance should start with us and with our willingness to not only seek God's face and turn from evil, but also to be an encouragement to others. We need to edify others and help them.

Being Someone Who Encourages

We should each - famous and regular people - do our part in encouraging others. As stated, we don't have to be celebrities. People can volunteer as a coach or mentor, be a Big Brother or Big Sister, work with an online group like icouldbe.org or orphan.org, or something else that can help people to follow the right path. That is where the part comes in about other people mattering and how we can play a part even when we don't realize it. It's especially important that when a parent isn't available, another relative, a coach, teacher, or someone else who is personally close to that person should be the one they look to the most. But, it is only natural for them to seek others to emulate, too.

It also means just being a Godly individual in business and in your home life. Focusing on the positive,keeping your mind on the good things of Philippians 4:8, staying away from addictive things but instead getting your joy out of the best thigns in life, which are free, and so on. Then, quietly passing that on to others. That's where anyone can make a major difference, by remembering that others matter.

Of course, it's hard to always walk that talk because we're human. but, that's why we need God's help, as I'll discuss at the end. Who knows what problems we can stop because we intervene before the person even starts to sink into problems. After all, often people turn to addictions because they are looking for an escape to hide pain they feel over something else. But, they need to see you care and that you are living consistently with what you say.

Other Keys
Whether the person is a public or private figure, what are the keys to being one and making a difference to someone?

1. Be humble. Realize that you are not perfect, and admit it, but keep improving, trying to be the best example of Jesus Christ you can be in kindness, compassion, love for others, and so on. Never do it to glorify yourself. Do it to glorify God because He is the one who should be your role model. And, one important characteristic was that He didn't boast of Himself. So, let others be the ones to brag on you.
     And, recall that whatever your talents - teaching, encouraging, performing, whatever - they were given by God for you to bless others. As 1 Cor. 10:31 says, "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God." You can bless and do secular work if it's what God calls you to do, but remember that purposeful sin won't honor God. Sure, every passion play has to have someone play Judas, but as the Philippians 4:8 post says, focus on things which are true, just, pure, lovely, etc..

2. Be thankful for fans, others. For a celebrity, just having fans is a great honor. Don't be the type who insists that people have to know who they are, but be humble and pleasantly surprised and thankful for any fans. A person can choose to let anyone entertain them, so if they chose you, it should be a great honor, not an entitlement. (If you've fallen into the trap, God understands, simply confess and forsake it, asking Him for forgiveness and to give you a heart for others.)
     But, to public and private people, being a role model is an even greater honor. It's not something you have to do - it's something you *get* to do. Joe DiMaggio, as a young ballplayer, said he always wanted to play his best because some young boy might be seeing him play for the first time. The need for such an attitude is true whether you are a performer or just a Sunday School teacher who has a regular job like plumber or factory worker or whatever.

3. Be faithful in little things, trust God to give you greater.  Before David was able to slay the giant, he had to be faithful in bringing lunch to his brothers at the battlefield. For him to be trusted to do that he had to do chores around the house, like tending sheep; which is where God also gave him training by giving him a lion and a bear to fight off guarding the sheep. (I don't think it was at the same time, but if it was, wow, that must have been something to see!)
     It might take time, if you mentor someone, to earn their trust. Some kids have seen so many people come and go, and they need to know you'll be in it for the long haul, that you'll keep praying for them and not abandon them when they mess up, for instance.

4. Don't become self-important.  DiMaggio forgot several important lessons later in life, including humility and letting others do the bragging. In 1969, he was voted the greatest living baseball player on the 100th anniversary of the first professional team. From then till his death. he insisted that everywhere he went, he was to be introduced as the "greatest living ballplayer."
     That should never be our attitude! There will always be someone better at something and someone worse at something than we are. DiMaggio let himself get way too puffed up with pride. However, it is appropriate to realize that to someone out there, our performance in and out of the public eye is important. Even if it's as simple as always brushing your teeth or keeping your cool when your car won't start just in case one of your Sunday School kids happens to ride by on his bike and see you out there.
      How to avoid getting puffed up with pride? The key is to keep your eyes on Jesus. When you do, you will realize that as much as people look up to you, you are not perfect and will always have room to improve. And, He will help you keep your mind on the important things of life. That kindness toward people, being friendly and considerate and polite, giving back to the community. Be like John the Baptist, who said of Jesus, "He must increase but I must decrease." After all, Jesus died to take the punishment for each of our sins, no matter who we are. Thankfully, He rose from the dead and is always there to help us when we ask Him for it, if you've trusted Him/called on Him to save you.
     It's the same lesson any good teacher, coach, parents, etc. needs to remember. They shouldn't go around saying they are the best and perfect because of their position. The ones who are most respected are humble and put others first. They do that because they are modeling that attitude in those they are responsible for.
     The athlete or entertainer may not be responsible in the same way for that person who sees them perform. (Though with some kids' home lives, they may look more than normal to such a person.) They do, however, have the opportunity to be a positive influence in the world. It is an opportunity given by God because He wants to do something special in each of our lives.

5. Be involved personally, don't just talk about it. Be willing to go out of your way to talk to someone who is down or try to find them help. Some people have started addictions at a very young age, for instance, but it would have possibly only taken one person to notice them and listen to their problems and encourage them along a better path to help them and keep it from starting. (Just pray and God will direct you in how to help or bring people your way.)
     People need to see you care, especially when they don't have a good situation . For some, it's the only way they'll see the love Jesus has for them. It'll also keep you from the temptation of letting things get out of hand if you're a celebrity. There are a number of athletes who ESPN's Outside The Lines reported have had major problems with their charities.
     Even for private individuals, though, as noted before, people need to see you'll stick with your mentoring or whatever. And, don't worry if it's hard. 2 Tim.2:1, for instance, says to be strong in the Lord. That verse "be strong" is a continual action in the original Greek; it's an action from outside. We need to keep trustign the Lord to continually strengthen us. So, if you are famous and end up visiting sick kids in a hospital, for instance, you can help encourage them by being the strength they need. (And, I know quite a few readers of this already do this, and to you I say thank you and salute you.)
6. Don't Be Drawn Into Sin. I've mentioned elsewhere about the big spiritual battle we face, especially how some things are demonic or have those in them. There are also others who have felt so much pressure they sink into addictions rather than letting God handle things and just stepping back from the problems because it gets that bad. It's important if you need to say "no" so you can be better off in the long run. You may also be the person who needs to be there for someone so they don't start, as I stated.
     (With Facebook, DM on Twitter, and many other things it's probably a lot easier than years ago especially for celebrities to find that help. Eitehr way, Young Hollywood, you can start things - make a pact so none of you ever gets into addictive things, demonic things, or other bad stuff, and to be dedicated to wholesomeness, with no vulgarity, dedicated to the Lord instead. He will give you strength to do it.)
     There is a great need for people to stand up for what's right in the world, and that means staying away from the things in the seedier part of the world. Romans 12:2 speaks of not being conformed to this world - we shouldn't be like the world's system which ignores God and at times outright invites the devil in.
     Even Hollywood has its good parts; one nephew is down there in fact and trying to start a living in it. He knows to be strong enough to avoid all the drinking and ungodly activity that might get some people something but will ultimately take them down the wrong path.

7. Stand for and live for what's right. Young people in and out of Hollywood need help and encouragement to stay away from those things and trust in the Lord to guide them in the right way, so a whole generation can see and stand for what's right and proper, staying away from vulgarity but instead doing wholesome things.
     This is true outside, too - in youth sports, in any area of life. Your young people can lead, such as in this free blogged book on spiritual leadership, but they need help Some have wonderful families to help, others need mentors to help.
     All, however, need encouragement.

Role Models Sparking Repentance Revival

     The above, as noted, is just as true in a regular public school or anywhere, too. People need someone to lift their spirits quite often in this sin-stained world. god made this world perfect with no pain, no suffering, no heartache, etc., but sin came into the world because god gave us free choice. People chosoe sin, but thankfully, God Himself made a way to be forgiven and get to His perfect heaven. That way is through trusting Jesus Christ as Saviour from one's sins, calling on Him by faith to forgive and save you. It's all inclusive - anyone can do it, it is not dependent on our works because God doesn't want us boasting of how we got there.

     It would be wonderful if every public high school had a student-led prayer and devotion club in their schools where students could come learn how much god lvoes them and how to have a relationship with Him and/or build that relationship. (If a youth would like to start one, they or an adult who wants to help them can go here - or click for the radio show here where several programs talk about it - and get help starting one. (It's the inner city ministry I've mentioned before that I've mostly copied a couple of these posts back and forth with on its blog.)

     Revival must start somewhere, though. it starts with adults and young people being encouragers.

     This, then, is how to find that perfect balance between the idea of role models and not comparing yourself to others. By turning to Godly people who inspire you to do more. And, by being one yourself.

     Because, whoever you are, you are capable of inspiring others, of being that role model they sorely need through mentoring, friendship, whatever else. And, as a public figure, through your good conduct inside and otuside the public arena, you will have the awesome experience of having people someday say, "I'm where I am because of him/her.

     Just something as little as knowing kids brush their teeth because of you is special. But, as you are able to be counted on more and more, God will give you the opportunity to really be a major influence. Maybe on jsut one person's life, but maybe - as a public figure - on a generation. Maybe on a nation.

     It starts with each individual not only repenting and praying for God to revive us, but also to be role models and encouragers for others, realizing we each have a responsibility to lead.

Monday, February 15, 2016

The "good thoughts" to focus on for a better world (Phil.4:8)

God gives us lots of great things to think about and look forward to when we know Him. We should be the most joyous people of all. This is why I've said we must focus on the positive and share what we are for,  not just what we oppose. The world loves to be negative, but we have a message of unconditional love to give people.

As stated before, God doesn't want to ruin our fun. God wants to enhance it. Jesus came that we might have life and life more abundantly.(John 10:10) So, when God's Word gives a list of things to think about, he is showing he wants us to have the maximum possible true enjoyment, not the false joy of the devils things.
This is why at the end he lets it all out in Philippians 4:8. If there is any virtue at all, if there is any praise at all, go ahead and think about these things. There are so many things that are wholesome, good-natured, and so on, which we can focus on.

Of course, we did not always do this effectively. However, society was much more wholesome way back when, and when we are committed to calling on the Lord to heal our broken country in repentance revival, He will help us and save us. But we should do our part in working to focus on the things mentioned and trust Him to help us to continue to do so, to be our strength when we struggle..

This is only one reason why Philippians 4:8 is so helpful. The importance of the thinds mentioned for a repentance revival will be apparent. These are things it can be hard, with our fleshly nature, to focus on ourselves, especially with the world so filled with the opposites. Yet, with God's help we can, and as we fill our hearts with them more it will be easier.

The verse starts with "finally." What came before is important but this starts a new thought. God the Holy Spirit inspired this to be written so we could see that by focusing on the items we would really benefit. These things help create the peace that passes understanding of the previous verse, the confidence that "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me," and so on because we focus on them. (As I've mentioned, using the terms in the KJV)

The first listed to think on is whatsoever things are true. It is wonderful to know that in all the problems of this world, there is absolute truth you can rely on. There is absolute love, for instance, unconditional love that we know God has for us. Then, there are facts such as this: You are fearfully and wonderfully made. What a great truth to think about when tempted to compare yourself to someone else. Our looks are fleeting, but God looks at the heart and He can help you to have a heart that is more loving, kind, gentle, and many other wonderful things.

Indeed, to have that peace that passes understanding, we can focus on that promise and many other promises that God has for us when we trust in Him. The world tries to tell us to conform to it and its standards with all the vulgarity and meanness and cruelty. however, we know we can focus on God and His Word and be sure of His truth. Being honest, not cheating, putting others first, and so on will pay off even if such things don't right away.

Things which are honest are listed next as things to think about. What is the difference between that and things that are true? The "true" part focused more on absolutes like I discussed above and on God's promises. "Honest" refers to personal honesty, not deceiving people but always being a person of your word. Lying and cheating have become far too common in society, and we should be different. As we pray for God to heal this nation - and this is one big area where it must begin with us - the Holy Spirit will convict more and more people in their consciences, even the unsaved, and society will be more honest, forthright, etc..

The next part, whatsoever things are just, reminds me of a few other posts on how we have neglected to do justice so much in our country. We are supposed to do justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with God(Micah 6:8), but, but we struggle because of our sin nature causing us to focus on ourselves. Thankfully, we must simply commit ourselves to doing it and then letting God change our hearts so that we can. The four C's of making Godly choices which have been spoken to youth are just as important to adults. 1. Consider the choice. 2. Compare it to God's Word. 3. Commit to Godly principles. 4. Count on God's protection and provision.

Ravi Zacharias notes that perfect justice is one of those absolutes that everyone has in mind. This is where Romans 2 talks about how everyone has some idea of justice in their minds, and one thing that condemns us is that we do not adhere to our own ideals of justice in every case. The fact that there are so many different ones shows why that perfect justice must come from God, because otherwise two people can have very opposing views of what is just.

Perfect justice requires that there be a penalty for sim.

Thankfully, God's perfect love was also present at the cross,  so as Mr. Zacharias says, perfect laws, perfect goodness, perfect evil, and perfect justice came together there, when thankfully Jesus Christ took our punishment, dying on the cross for our sin and rising from the dead, so we could call on him for salvation and have that wonderful relationship with God He wants us to have. What an awesome Savior! Anyone can call on Him right now to be saved from sin if they haven't.
 
Of course, it is not just that we should think about, but as noted first, the justice that should be done to everyone. Because, God truly sees everyone as equal before the cross,but we should do what's right and just for others, too.

The next one is something that our society struggles with perhaps more than any of the others.

We should focus on whatsoever things are pure.

The word actually means without stains, without interference from sin. We all sin and come short of the glory of God, of course, but there was a wholesomeness to life in the past, not just to entertainment. We need the Lord to return to us the joys of it by trusting Him to make that change in our hearts.

This is where the way our culture uses it is creates a huge importance for us to think on things that are pure to have repentance revival. 

Our culture makes too much of the sensual. There are many reasons for this, and to keep this family friendly, I'll just discuss things in general and how they show thinking about pure things is better. After all, there is a wonderful, wholesome place for one aspect of it, and that is between a married couple, just as a lawnmower is a wonderful tool to cut the grass but is not meant for trimming hedges or deadheading geraniums.

First, the Greeks have four words for love - I go into detail about them in this blog on another blog on this site. If we focus only on the external we miss out on the deeper, more lasting,  forever love that is unconditional.

That often can be traced to a lack of such unconditional love early. It doesn't have to come from those connected biologically, though it should. When some people feel they've missed that they turn to the superficial rather than to God's unconditional love, just like the woman at the well(John 4) kept turing to men till she met the Saviour, Jesus.

Jesus will fill all those holes in their hearts if they just turn to Him, however. And, when people respond to His Spirit's wooing, He can work in those people to be the family they never had to one who craves such love. Or, just friends who fill little needs, those best friends forever who a person can turn to if they don't feel like going to family and who can be like family.

Some, of course, simply fall for youthful lusts the way David did. King David doesn't seem to have had family problems except for brothers who taunted him, but even that wasn't as bad as some people have. Also, some brothers do that because they want their youngest brother to succeed through very hard work. It is even possible that his brothers tried to warn him away from the battle with Goliath to protect him. So, his home life was probably pretty good. Suffice it to say that there is a reason the Bible warns so heavily to flee youthful lusts. They can become very addictive and even rewire the brain if one is not careful, just like any addiction, even for someone from a very healthy background. This includes not looking at certain things, and also being modest in appearance.

This is because there is an element of selfishness in those "lusts of the flesh, lusts of the eyes, and the pride of life" that 1 John 2:16 warns about. They cause people to only want what they can use for themselves and not how they can help and give to others; true love is ultimately all about giving, not getting. I've mentioned in several posts that is one of the big problems in our society, one that God must heal for us to have repentance revival, which means confessing and forsaking any and ourselves and then in our nation as a whole.

Instead, think on things that are pure. This lets you to focus on that unconditional love and to keep your mind on things of God. It allows you to focus on giving, which is more blessed than getting anyway. It also causes you to stop worrying about yourself and put your mind on following the Lord and His perfect wisdom and plan for your life. God will provide someone special in His time for those without someone. But, the Bible says being single is a gift also, because one can focus totally on Him.

There are many other things that can be included in things that are pure, however. Pristine, beautiful nature, for instance is so wonderful to observe. It is exquisite. It is lovely.

We should think on whatsoever things are lovely. The above is not the only thing that is lovely. It is just something that more people might think about nowadays.

When we think about things that are lovely, we think about anything that produces the right kind of pleasure. the kind that brings great joy internally that lasts, instead of the very temporary things involved in what came in the examples before.

The best things in life are free, such as that unconditional love. Every good and perfect gift cometh from above, from the Father of lights.(James 1:17) Also among those lovely, precious things are the Fruit of the Spirit(Gal.5:22-23) such as love, joy, peace, longsuffering(patience), temprance(self-control),etc.. Those are thigns that last. Money, fame, etc. are fleeting. It is those warm, family memories, those joyous occasions, that are lovely and should be focused on. This, in turn, helps us to avoid focusing on the bad - the fights, the battles, and so on.

Whatsoever things are of good report is sort of a general, catch-all phrase that captures whatever wasn't mentioned before. I suppose a wonderful, home-cooked meal or your favorite food at your favorite restaurant could be called lovely, but I tend to think of it as more of what fits here. "good report" just means that it is something that causes one to grow in favor with Godly people, to increase in reputation as a person who is reliable, dependable, hard working, and so on - all things that allow God to use them more and more for greater and greater things.

King David, for instance, had a couple things that prepared him for killing the giant, Goliath. One was that he obeyed in taking meals to his brothers in the field. That showed a caring servant's heart. He had also killed a lion and a bear that were trying to get at their father Jesse's sheep.

When it comes to entertainment, getting back to a previous subject, a "good report" can still be comical or involve a mistake, but it will be one with humility. My great grandmother lived to be 95, and she always said the secret to long life was "at least one good belly laugh a day." but, that involved good, clean humor, not crass, vulgar stuff that belittles people. I love laughing at my own mistakes nd making fun of when iImisunderstand things, because I have lots of self-confidence, I know that when i mess up it doesn't mean I'm some awful person.

So, it's really just humility. having fun with life instead of being so critical about everything. A teenager who called my office had that. He was trying to call a consulate in a foreign country, but did a country code wrong and so when he asked for that consulate, having had this happen to me once before, I started laughing and told him what he'd done. Now, had he been sad I would not have gone further but reassured him, but because he started laughing, too, I went on and said, "Your friends are going to tease you so much."(He was there with some sort of school group.) We both had a very good, lighthearted laugh over his "7,000 mile wrong number" as we spoke for a moment before he hung up. To this day, several years later, I'm sure that he looks back on it with his friends and laughs, and it has become part of their shared experience. It is something of good report, an honest mistake that was a real whopper, which ultimately showed that we are only human. We need to know when to be serious but also to look at the bright side of life and accept when thigns come our way that are not what we expect.

So, if there be any virtue, if there be any praise, think on these things. Like the above, this is a catch-all term that means to focus on that positive. Accepting our failings with humility

There are plenty of things that have praise from the world's viewpoint, but of course this is praise from God's perspective. Still, as noted, that covers a wide range of things. There is a wonderful list of things we can focus on while staying sober, laughing, having fun, and so on.

So, instead of covering the world with meanness, vulgarity, anger, sensual stuff, and so on, focus on the things which build others up, which last forever. Focus on the positive. And, focus on the things of God - the promises of comfort, peace that passes understanding, etc..

Because, God wants you to be more confident and positive. He says so in His Word - a merry heart workth good like a medicine.(Prov.17:22)